Applying Biblical Principles to Marriage and Parenting
Biblical principles for marriage and parenting are rooted in the creation account and further developed throughout Scripture, emphasizing the divine institution of marriage and the responsibilities of parents and children. Marriage was instituted in Paradise when humanity was in innocence, as described in Genesis 2:18-24 [3]. This foundational passage establishes several key principles: the unity of man and wife, her formation from man, the indissolubility of the bond, monogamy, the social equality of spouses, and the wife's subordination to the husband [2]. Jesus later confirmed this original charter as the basis for all regulations concerning marriage (Matthew 19:4-5) [3].
Marriage is presented as a covenant relationship, not merely a human social construct, but one rooted in the created order [1, 7]. The act of "leaving" parents and being "joined" to a spouse signifies a shift in loyalty and establishes marriage as the most fundamental covenant relationship among humans [7]. This covenant is also a powerful image of Israel's relationship with God and Christ's relationship with the church (Ephesians 5:22-32) [7, 8]. The purpose of marriage includes the happiness of man, increasing the human population, raising godly offspring, and preventing fornication (Genesis 1:28, 2:18; Malachi 2:15; 1 Corinthians 7:2) [1]. It is considered lawful and honorable for all (1 Corinthians 7:2, 28; Hebrews 13:4) and should be undertaken "in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39) [1]. While polygamy and concubinage appeared in later patriarchal times, monogamy was the original divine intention [3].
Children are considered a gift from God (Genesis 33:5; Psalm 127:3) [4]. Parents receive their children from God and have specific duties towards them [5]. These duties include loving them (Titus 2:4), bringing them to Christ (Matthew 19:13-14), training them up for God (Proverbs 22:6; Ephesians 6:4), and instructing them in God's word (Deuteronomy 4:9, 11:19) [5]. Parents are also responsible for telling their children about God's judgments and miraculous works (Joel 1:3; Psalm 78:4), commanding them to obey God (Deuteronomy 32:46), blessing them (Genesis 48:15), pitying them (Psalm 103:13), and providing for them (1 Timothy 5:8) [5]. John Gill interprets the command to "be fruitful and multiply" (Genesis 1:28) as more than a permission, suggesting it is a direction or advice for marriage and procreation [9].
Children, in turn, have duties towards their parents. They are to obey their parents without exception (Colossians 3:20) [10], honor them (Exodus 20:12; Hebrews 12:9), and attend to their teaching (Proverbs 1:8-9) [4]. Good children are described as knowing the Scriptures, observing God's law, and making their parents' hearts glad (Proverbs 10:1; 29:17; 2 Timothy 3:15) [6]. Their obedience to parents is pleasing to God and results in blessings (Colossians 3:20; Ephesians 6:2-3) [6]. The biblical framework thus establishes a reciprocal relationship of love, instruction, and obedience within the family unit, grounded in divine command and purpose.
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- Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Marriage — Divinely instituted -- Ge 2:24. A covenant relationship -- Mal 2:4. Designed for The happiness of man. -- Ge 2:18. Increasing the human population. -- Ge 1:28; 9:1. Raising up godly seed. -- Mal 2:15. Preventing fornication. -- 1Co 7:2. The expectation of the promised seed of the woman an incentive to, in the early age -- Ge 3:15; 4:1. Lawful in all -- 1Co 7:2,28; 1Ti 5:14. Honourable for all -- Heb 13:4. Should be only in the Lord -- 1Co 7:39. Expressed by Joining together. -- Mt 19:6. Making affinity. -- 1Ki 3:1. Taking to wife. -- Ex 2:1. Giving daughte”
- Smith's Bible Dictionary “Smith's Bible Dictionary: Marriage — + Its origin and history .--The institution of marriage dates from the time of man's original creation. (Genesis 2:18-25) From (Genesis 2:24) we may evolve the following principles: (1) The unity of man and wife, as implied in her being formed out of man. (2) The indissolubleness of the marriage bond, except on; the strongest grounds, Comp. (Matthew 19:9) (3) Monogamy, as the original law of marriage (4) The social equality of man and wife. (5) The subordination of the wife to the husband. (1 Corinthians 11:8,9; 1 Timothy 2:13) (6) The respective duties of ”
- Easton's Bible Dictionary “Easton's Bible Dictionary: Marriage — Was instituted in Paradise when man was in innocence (Gen. 2:18-24). Here we have its original charter, which was confirmed by our Lord, as the basis on which all regulations are to be framed (Matt. 19:4, 5). It is evident that monogamy was the original law of marriage (Matt. 19:5; 1 Cor. 6:16). This law was violated in after times, when corrupt usages began to be introduced (Gen. 4:19; 6:2). We meet with the prevalence of polygamy and concubinage in the patriarchal age (Gen. 16:1-4; 22:21-24; 28:8, 9; 29:23-30, etc.). Polygamy was acknowledged in the Mosa”
- Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Children — Christ was an example to -- Lu 2:51; Joh 19:26,27. Are a gift from God -- Ge 33:5; Ps 127:3. Are capable of glorifying God -- Ps 8:2; 148:12,13; Mt 21:15,16. Should be Brought to Christ. -- Mr 10:13-16. Brought early to the house of God. -- 1Sa 1:24. Instructed in the ways of God. -- De 31:12,13; Pr 22:6. Judiciously trained. -- Pr 22:15; 29:17; Eph 6:4. Should Obey God. -- De 30:2. Fear God. -- Pr 24:21. Remember God. -- Ec 12:1. Attend to parental teaching. -- Pr 1:8,9. Honour parents. -- Ex 20:12; Heb 12:9. Fear parents. -- Le 19:3. Obey parents. -- Pr ”
- Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Parents — Receive their children from God -- Ge 33:5; 1Sa 1:27; Ps 127:3. Their duty to their children is To love them. -- Tit 2:4. To bring them to Christ. -- Mt 19:13,14. To train them up for God. -- Pr 22:6; Eph 6:4. To instruct them in God's word. -- De 4:9; 11:19; Isa 38:19. To tell them of God's judgments. -- Joe 1:3. To tell them of the miraculous works of God. -- Ex 10:2; Ps 78:4. To command them to obey God. -- De 32:46; 1Ch 28:9. To bless them. -- Ge 48:15; Heb 11:20. To pity them. -- Ps 103:13. To provide for them. -- Job 42:15; 2Co 12:14; 1Ti 5:8. To rule”
- Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Children, Good — The Lord is with -- 1Sa 3:19. Know the Scriptures -- 2Ti 3:15. Observe the law of God -- Pr 28:7. Their obedience to parents is well pleasing to God -- Col 3:20. Partake of the promises of God -- Ac 2:39. Shall be blessed -- Pr 3:1-4; Eph 6:2,3. Show love to parents -- Ge 46:29. Obey parents -- Ge 28:7; 47:30. Attend to parental teaching -- Pr 13:1. Take care of parents -- Ge 45:9,11; 47:12. Make their parents' hearts glad -- Pr 10:1; 29:17. Honour the aged -- Job 32:6,7. Adduced as a motive for submission to God -- Heb 12:9. Spirit of, a requisite f”
- Genesis (Protestant academic) “Tyndale House on Genesis 2:24: 2:24 Marriage between a man and a woman is not just a human social construct but is rooted in the created order. • a man leaves . . . and is joined: Marriage entails a shift of loyalty from parents to spouse. • the two are united into one: Marriage and its commitments make it the most fundamental covenant relationship observed among humans. Marriage is a powerful image of Israel’s covenant with God (Hos 2:14-23) and of Christ’s relationship to the church (Eph 5:22-32). Marriage is designed as an inseparable, exclusive relationship between a man and a woman. The f”
- Ephesians (Presbyterian) “Jamieson, Fausset & Brown on Ephesians 5:31: For--The propagation of the Church from Christ, as that of Eve from Adam, is the foundation of the spiritual marriage. The natural marriage, wherein "a man leaves father and mother (the oldest manuscripts omit 'his') and is joined unto his wife," is not the principal thing meant here, but the spiritual marriage represented by it, and on which it rests, whereby Christ left the Father's bosom to woo to Himself the Church out of a lost world: Eph 5:32 proves this: His earthly mother as such, also, He holds in secondary account as compared with His spir”
- Genesis (Baptist/Reformed) “John Gill on Genesis 1:28: And God blessed them,.... The man and the woman he had made, with all the blessings of nature and Providence; with all the good things of life; with his presence, and with communion with himself in a natural way, through the creatures; and particularly with a power of procreating their species, as follows, and God said unto them, be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth: if this is not an express command, as the Jews understand it, for marriage and procreation of children, it seems to be more than a bare permission; at least it is a direction and an advic”
- CCEL (Reformed) “Calvin, Commentary on Philippians, Colossians, 1-2 Thessalonians, section 40.2: I, however, view it rather differently, — As it is fit in the Lord , that is, according to the appointment of the Lord, so that he confirms the subjection of wives by the authority of God. He requires love on the part of husbands, and that they be not bitter , because there is a danger lest they should abuse their authority in the way of tyranny. 20 Children, obey your parents. He enjoins it upon children to obey their parents, 458 458 “ Leurs peres et meres ;” — “Their fathers and mothers.” without any exception. ”