Biblical Teachings on Domestic Abuse and Violence
The Bible addresses violence in various contexts, including within domestic settings, often condemning it and advocating for protection of the vulnerable. While direct modern terminology like "domestic abuse" is not used, biblical texts speak against oppression and violence, particularly towards those in weaker positions within a household or society.
God is depicted as a judge for the oppressed, including widows, and explicitly states that they should not be afflicted, oppressed, or treated with violence [2]. Similarly, children are presented as gifts from God and are to be instructed and trained judiciously, not abused [3]. The concept of God's long-suffering is noted, but it also has limits, especially when His patience is abused by the wicked [1].
The Old Testament contains passages that illustrate severe consequences for certain actions within families. For instance, in patriarchal times, fathers sometimes held the power of life and death over family members, with adultery potentially punishable by burning [8]. However, the broader biblical narrative consistently condemns violence and hatred. Ecclesiastes 3:8 notes "a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace," indicating that while conflict exists, love and peace are also divinely ordained aspects of life [5]. The Psalms indicate that God "hates" the wicked and those who love violence [7].
Families are encouraged to live in unity and mutual forbearance, with an emphasis on worshiping God together and being duly regulated [4]. The New Testament further emphasizes the importance of love and forbearance in marital relationships [9]. Hardship and discipline are sometimes presented as God's loving training for His children, aiming to cultivate righteousness and holy character [10]. However, this concept of discipline is distinct from human-perpetrated violence or abuse.
The biblical narrative consistently calls for the protection of the vulnerable and condemns actions that cause harm. The spirit of grace and supplication is poured out, leading to mourning for those who have been "pierced" [6].
Sources
- Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Long-Suffering of God, The — Is part of his character -- Ex 34:6; Nu 14:18; Ps 86:15. Salvation, the object of -- 2Pe 3:15. Through Christ's intercession -- Lu 13:8. Should lead to repentance -- Ro 2:4; 2Pe 3:9. An encouragement to repent -- Joe 2:13. Exhibited in forgiving sins -- Ro 3:25. Exercised toward His people. -- Isa 30:18; Eze 20:17. The wicked. -- Ro 9:22; 1Pe 3:20. Plead in prayer -- Jer 15:15. Limits set to -- Ge 6:3; Jer 44:22. The wicked Abuse. -- Ec 8:11; Mt 24:48,49. Despise. -- Ro 2:4. Punished for despising. -- Ne 9:30; Mt 24:48-51; Ro 2:5. Illustr”
- Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Widows — Character of true -- Lu 2:37; 1Ti 5:5,10. God Surely hears the cry of. -- Ex 22:23. Judges for. -- De 10:18; Ps 68:5. Relieves. -- Ps 146:9. Establishes the border of. -- Pr 15:25. Will witness against oppressors of. -- Mal 3:5. Exhorted to trust in God -- Jer 49:11. Should not be Afflicted. -- Ex 22:22. Oppressed. -- Jer 7:6; Zec 7:10. Treated with violence. -- Jer 22:3. Deprived of raiment in pledge. -- De 24:17. Should be Pleaded for. -- Isa 1:17. Honoured, if widows indeed. -- 1Ti 5:3. Relieved by their friends. -- 1Ti 5:4,16. Relieved by the Church. -- ”
- Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Children — Christ was an example to -- Lu 2:51; Joh 19:26,27. Are a gift from God -- Ge 33:5; Ps 127:3. Are capable of glorifying God -- Ps 8:2; 148:12,13; Mt 21:15,16. Should be Brought to Christ. -- Mr 10:13-16. Brought early to the house of God. -- 1Sa 1:24. Instructed in the ways of God. -- De 31:12,13; Pr 22:6. Judiciously trained. -- Pr 22:15; 29:17; Eph 6:4. Should Obey God. -- De 30:2. Fear God. -- Pr 24:21. Remember God. -- Ec 12:1. Attend to parental teaching. -- Pr 1:8,9. Honour parents. -- Ex 20:12; Heb 12:9. Fear parents. -- Le 19:3. Obey parents. -- Pr ”
- Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Families — Of saints blessed -- Ps 128:3-6. Should Be taught the Scriptures. -- De 4:9,10. Worship God together. -- 1Co 16:19. Be duly regulated. -- Pr 31:27; 1Ti 3:4,5,12. Live in unity. -- Ge 45:24; Ps 133:1. Live in mutual forbearance. -- Ge 50:17-21; Mt 18:21,22. Rejoice together before God. -- De 14:26. Deceivers and liars should be removed from -- Ps 101:7. Warning against departing from God -- De 29:18. Punishment of irreligious -- Jer 10:25. Good -- Exemplified Abraham. -- Ge 18:19. Jacob. -- Ge 35:2. Joshua. -- Jos 24:15. David. -- 2Sa 6:20. Job. -- Job 1:5.”
- Ecclesiastes “Ecclesiastes 3:8 (BSB) — a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.”
- Zechariah “I will pour on the house of David, and on the inhabitants of Jerusalem, the spirit of grace and of supplication; and they will look to me whom they have pierced; and they shall mourn for him, as one mourns for his only son, and will grieve bitterly for him, as one grieves for his firstborn. -- Zechariah 12:10”
- Psalms (Protestant academic) “Tyndale House on Psalms 11:5: 11:5 hates: See 5:4-6; Prov 6:16-18. • Wicked deeds result in destruction and violence (Pss 58:2; 73:6; 74:20).”
- Genesis (Presbyterian) “Jamieson, Fausset & Brown on Genesis 38:24: Bring her forth, and let her be burnt--In patriarchal times fathers seem to have possessed the power of life and death over the members of their families. The crime of adultery was anciently punished in many places by burning (Lev 21:9; Jdg 15:6; Jer 29:22). This chapter contains details, which probably would never have obtained a place in the inspired record, had it not been to exhibit the full links of the chain that connects the genealogy of the Saviour with Abraham; and in the disreputable character of the ancestry who figure in this passage, we ”
- 1 Peter (Presbyterian) “Jamieson, Fausset & Brown on 1 Peter 3 (introduction): RELATIVE DUTIES OF HUSBANDS AND WIVES: EXHORTATIONS TO LOVE AND FORBEARANCE: RIGHT CONDUCT UNDER PERSECUTIONS FOR RIGHTEOUSNESS' SAKE, AFTER CHRIST'S EXAMPLE, WHOSE DEATH RESULTED IN QUICKENING TO US THROUGH HIS BEING QUICKENED AGAIN, OF WHICH BAPTISM IS THE SACRAMENTAL SEAL. (1Pe. 3:1-22) Likewise--Greek, "In like manner," as "servants" in their sphere; compare the reason of the woman's subjection, Co1 11:8-10; Ti1 2:11-14. your own--enforcing the obligation: it is not strangers ye are required to be subject to. Every time that obedien”
- Hebrews (Protestant academic) “Tyndale House on Hebrews 12:5: 12:5-6 In these verses, the encouraging words are quoted from Prov 3:11-12, a passage that regards hardship as the Lord’s loving discipline for his children. God can turn a wide variety of trials and difficulties to our good, training us in righteousness and holy character.”