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Illustrating Biblical Principles in Modern Parenting Situations

Biblical principles offer a framework for modern parenting, emphasizing the roles and responsibilities of both parents and children within a faith context. These principles are rooted in the understanding that children are a gift from God and are to be raised in a manner that honors Him [2, 3].

One foundational principle is the instruction for parents to love their children and to bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord [2, 13]. This involves actively teaching children God's word, instructing them in His ways, and recounting His miraculous works and judgments [2, 7]. For instance, Deuteronomy 4:9 and 11:19 highlight the importance of parents diligently teaching their children God's statutes, while Psalm 78:4 speaks of making God's deeds known to the next generation [2, 7]. This instruction is not merely academic but aims to cultivate a fear of God and obedience to Him in children [3]. The goal is to train children up for God, as Proverbs 22:6 suggests, so they will not depart from it when they are old [2, 3]. This training should be judicious, avoiding harshness that might provoke children to anger, and instead focusing on loving and gentle discipline that draws them to the Lord [3, 10, 13]. The Tyndale House Commentary on Ephesians 6:4 notes that fathers, in particular, should avoid provoking their children to anger through harsh or unjust treatment, instead providing discipline and instruction that aligns with the Lord's ways [13]. This approach ensures that children are not turned away from faith but are nurtured in it [13].

Conversely, children are called to honor and obey their parents, a principle frequently reiterated in Scripture [1, 3]. Exodus 20:12, part of the Ten Commandments, explicitly commands children to honor their father and mother. This obedience is described as "well pleasing to God" in Colossians 3:20 [1]. Beyond mere obedience, children are encouraged to attend to parental teaching, as seen in Proverbs 1:8-9 and 13:1 [1, 3]. This respect extends to caring for parents in their old age, as exemplified by Joseph's care for Jacob in Genesis 45:9-11 and 47:12 [1]. The Torrey's Topical Textbook also notes that children should make their parents' hearts glad, as Proverbs 10:1 and 29:17 suggest [1]. The example of Christ Himself, who was obedient to His parents, serves as a model for children [3].

The concept of discipline is another significant biblical principle in parenting. Hebrews 12:9-10 discusses the nature of parental discipline, contrasting it with God's perfect discipline. Earthly fathers discipline "for a few days" and "after their own pleasure," meaning their discipline might be influenced by their own judgment or temper [12]. However, God's discipline is always for the good of His children, aiming for their holiness [12]. This passage implies that while human parents discipline, they should strive to do so with a view towards their children's ultimate spiritual well-being, rather than merely for immediate behavioral correction or personal satisfaction [12]. Afflictions, including disciplinary measures, can be beneficial in teaching God's will, turning individuals to God, and convincing them of sin [4]. The Tyndale House Commentary on Ephesians 6:4 emphasizes that parental discipline should be "loving and gentle" and focused on drawing children to the Lord, rather than alienating them [13].

The Bible also highlights the spiritual capacity of children. They are considered capable of glorifying God, as Psalm 8:2 and Matthew 21:15-16 indicate [3, 5]. They are to be brought to Christ and instructed in the ways of God from an early age [2, 3]. This early instruction includes knowing the Scriptures, as Timothy did from childhood (2 Timothy 3:15) [1]. Children are also seen as partakers of God's promises, as stated in Acts 2:39 [1]. This underscores the importance of nurturing their faith from infancy, recognizing their potential for spiritual growth and service. The Jamieson, Fausset & Brown Commentary on 1 Peter 2:2 describes believers as "new-born babes," emphasizing a childlike spirit as indispensable for entering heaven and for receiving the "sincere milk of the word" [8]. John Gill further elaborates on this, suggesting that the exhortation to be "as new born babes" implies a simplicity and readiness to receive Christian doctrine [9].

Diligence is a quality expected in both parents and children. Parents are to be diligent in instructing their children and bringing them up in the Lord [2]. Children are to be diligent in obeying God, fearing Him, and remembering Him [3]. Diligence is required in seeking God, obeying Him, and striving for spiritual perfection [6]. This principle extends to all aspects of Christian life, including the "labours of love" and guarding against defilement [6].

The relationship between parents and children is presented as a reflection of their devotion to the Lord [10]. The Tyndale House Commentary on Ephesians 6:1 states that this relationship should mirror their commitment to God [10]. This means that the way parents raise their children and the way children respond to their parents are integral parts of their faith expression. The covenant relationship between God and His people is sometimes illustrated by a parent-child dynamic, where God takes His people "by the hand, as a father takes his child by the hand to support and guide his steps" [11]. This imagery reinforces the idea of divine guidance and care, which parents are called to emulate.

Sources

  1. Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Children, Good — The Lord is with -- 1Sa 3:19. Know the Scriptures -- 2Ti 3:15. Observe the law of God -- Pr 28:7. Their obedience to parents is well pleasing to God -- Col 3:20. Partake of the promises of God -- Ac 2:39. Shall be blessed -- Pr 3:1-4; Eph 6:2,3. Show love to parents -- Ge 46:29. Obey parents -- Ge 28:7; 47:30. Attend to parental teaching -- Pr 13:1. Take care of parents -- Ge 45:9,11; 47:12. Make their parents' hearts glad -- Pr 10:1; 29:17. Honour the aged -- Job 32:6,7. Adduced as a motive for submission to God -- Heb 12:9. Spirit of, a requisite f”
  2. Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Parents — Receive their children from God -- Ge 33:5; 1Sa 1:27; Ps 127:3. Their duty to their children is To love them. -- Tit 2:4. To bring them to Christ. -- Mt 19:13,14. To train them up for God. -- Pr 22:6; Eph 6:4. To instruct them in God's word. -- De 4:9; 11:19; Isa 38:19. To tell them of God's judgments. -- Joe 1:3. To tell them of the miraculous works of God. -- Ex 10:2; Ps 78:4. To command them to obey God. -- De 32:46; 1Ch 28:9. To bless them. -- Ge 48:15; Heb 11:20. To pity them. -- Ps 103:13. To provide for them. -- Job 42:15; 2Co 12:14; 1Ti 5:8. To rule”
  3. Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Children — Christ was an example to -- Lu 2:51; Joh 19:26,27. Are a gift from God -- Ge 33:5; Ps 127:3. Are capable of glorifying God -- Ps 8:2; 148:12,13; Mt 21:15,16. Should be Brought to Christ. -- Mr 10:13-16. Brought early to the house of God. -- 1Sa 1:24. Instructed in the ways of God. -- De 31:12,13; Pr 22:6. Judiciously trained. -- Pr 22:15; 29:17; Eph 6:4. Should Obey God. -- De 30:2. Fear God. -- Pr 24:21. Remember God. -- Ec 12:1. Attend to parental teaching. -- Pr 1:8,9. Honour parents. -- Ex 20:12; Heb 12:9. Fear parents. -- Le 19:3. Obey parents. -- Pr ”
  4. Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Afflictions Made Beneficial — In promoting the glory of God -- Joh 9:1-3; 11:3,4; 21:18,19. In exhibiting the power and faithfulness of God -- Ps 34:19,20; 2Co 4:8-11. In teaching us the will of God -- Ps 119:71; Isa 26:9; Mic 6:9. In turning us to God -- De 4:30,31; Ne 1:8,9; Ps 78:34; Isa 10:20,21; Ho 2:6,7. In keeping us from again departing from God -- Job 34:31,32; Isa 10:20; Eze 14:10,11. In leading us to seek God in prayer -- Jdj 4:3; Jer 31:18; La 2:17-19; Ho 5:14,15; Jon 2:1. In convincing us of sin -- Job 36:8,9; Ps 119:67; Lu 15:16-18. In leading us to con”
  5. Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Missionaries, All Christians Should Be As — After the example of Christ -- Ac 10:38. Women and children as well as men -- Ps 8:2; Pr 31:26; Mt 21:15,16; Php 4:3; 1Ti 5:10; Tit 2:3-5; 1Pe 3:1. The zeal of idolaters should provoke to -- Jer 7:18. The zeal of hypocrites should provoke to -- Mt 23:15. An imperative duty -- Jdj 5:23; Lu 19:40. The principle on which -- 2Co 5:14,15. However weak they may be -- 1Co 1:27. From their calling as saints -- Ex 19:6; 1Pe 2:9. As faithful stewards -- 1Pe 4:10,11. In youth -- Ps 71:17; 148:12,13. In old age -- De 32:7; Ps 71:18. In”
  6. Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Diligence — Christ, an example -- Mr 1:35; Lu 2:49. Required by God in Seeking him. -- 1Ch 22:19; Heb 11:6. Obeying him. -- De 6:17; 11:13. Hearkening to him. -- Isa 55:2. Striving after perfection. -- Php 3:13,14. Cultivating Christian graces. -- 2Pe 1:5. Keeping the souls. -- De 4:9. Keeping the heart. -- Pr 4:23. Labours of love. -- Heb 6:10-12. Following every good work. -- 1Ti 5:10. Guarding against defilement. -- Heb 12:15. Seeking to be found spotless. -- 2Pe 3:14. Making our call, &c, sure. -- 2Pe 1:10. Self-examination. -- Ps 77:6. Lawful business. -- Pr 27:”
  7. Psalms “For he established a testimony in Jacob, and appointed a teaching in Israel, which he commanded our fathers, that they should make them known to their children; -- Psalms 78:5”
  8. 1 Peter (Presbyterian) “Jamieson, Fausset & Brown on 1 Peter 2:2: new-born babes--altogether without "guile" (Pe1 2:1). As long as we are here we are "babes," in a specially tender relation to God (Isa 40:11). The childlike spirit is indispensable if we would enter heaven. "Milk" is here not elementary truths in contradistinction to more advanced Christian truths, as in Co1 3:2; Heb 5:12-13; but in contrast to "guile, hypocrisies," &c. (Pe1 2:1); the simplicity of Christian doctrine in general to the childlike spirit. The same "word of grace" which is the instrument in regeneration, is the instrument also of building”
  9. 1 Peter (Baptist/Reformed) “John Gill on 1 Peter 2:2: As new born babes,.... The Syriac version renders it, "be ye simple as infants"; and as if it was a distinct exhortation of itself, and from that which follows; though it seems rather to be descriptive of the persons spoken to, and a character of them, under which the apostle addresses them; which carries in it a reason strengthening the exhortation after given: he takes it for granted that they were begotten again, according to the abundant mercy of God, and born of incorruptible seed, by the word of God, and that they were just, or lately born; and which is to be un”
  10. Ephesians (Protestant academic) “Tyndale House on Ephesians 6:1: 6:1-4 The relationship between parents and children is to be a reflection of their devotion to the Lord. Christian children are to obey their parents, and Christian parents are to discipline their children gently (see Col 3:20-21).”
  11. Hebrews (Presbyterian) “Jamieson, Fausset & Brown on Hebrews 8:9: Not according to, &c.--very different from, and far superior to, the old covenant, which only "worked wrath" (Rom 4:15) through man's "not regarding" it. The new covenant enables us to obey by the Spirit's inward impulse producing love because of the forgiveness of our sins. made with--rather as Greek, "made to": the Israelites being only recipients, not coagents [ALFORD] with God. I took them by the hand--as a father takes his child by the hand to support and guide his steps. "There are three periods: (1) that of the promise; (2) that of the pedag”
  12. Hebrews (Presbyterian) “Jamieson, Fausset & Brown on Hebrews 12:10: Showing wherein the chastisement of our heavenly Father is preferable to that of earthly fathers. for a few days--that is, with a view to our well-being in the few days of our earthly life: so the Greek. after their own pleasure--Greek, "according to what seemed fit to themselves." Their rule of chastening is what may seem fit to their own often erring judgment, temper, or caprice. The two defects of human education are: (1) the prevalence in it of a view to the interests of our short earthly term of days; (2) the absence in parents of the unerri”
  13. Ephesians (Protestant academic) “Tyndale House on Ephesians 6:4: 6:4 Fathers can often provoke their children to anger by being harsh or unjust (see Col 3:21). Parents should give their children the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord (or the discipline and instruction about the Lord) so that they will learn a way of living that is good and pleases God. Such discipline is not to be excessive, but loving and gentle, so that children are not turned from the Lord but are drawn to him (cp. Heb 12:5-11).”
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