Lust in Marriage According to Biblical Teachings
Lust, in a biblical sense, refers to sinful longing or an inward sin that can lead to a departure from God [1]. While marriage is divinely instituted and intended for happiness, procreation, and the prevention of fornication [3, 4], the concept of lust within marriage requires careful consideration.
Marriage itself was established in Paradise, with its original charter found in Genesis 2:18-24, a foundation confirmed by Jesus in Matthew 19:4-5 [4, 6]. It is presented as a covenant relationship [3], symbolizing the bond between God and His people [8, 9, 11]. The Bible emphasizes monogamy as the original law of marriage [4, 6].
The term "lust" generally denotes an inordinate or sinful desire. Easton's Bible Dictionary defines it as "sinful longing" and "the inward sin which leads to the falling away from God" [1]. In Mark 4:19, "lusts" are described as objects of desire [1]. The New Testament uses the term in various contexts, such as in 1 Timothy 5:11, where younger widows are described as growing "lustful against Christ" and desiring to marry [2, 5]. This suggests a desire that is out of alignment with spiritual priorities.
Within the marital context, the laws of chastity and marriage are designed to foster fidelity and secure the union against "outbreaks of malice and evil lust" [12]. While marriage is honorable [3], the Bible warns against allowing "inordinate desires" to govern one's actions, even within the bounds of marriage, as seen in the Old Testament allowance for marrying a captive, which Matthew Henry interprets as a concession to "hardness of their hearts" and "men's inordinate desires" [10]. This suggests that while certain actions might have been permitted, they were not necessarily ideal or reflective of God's perfect will.
Therefore, while marriage is a sacred union, the presence of lust—understood as a sinful or inordinate desire—even within marriage, can be contrary to biblical teachings. The ideal of marriage is rooted in love, which is described as a divine, commanded, and abiding principle [7].
Sources
- Easton's Bible Dictionary “Easton's Bible Dictionary: Lust — Sinful longing; the inward sin which leads to the falling away from God (Rom. 1:21). "Lust, the origin of sin, has its place in the heart, not of necessity, but because it is the centre of all moral forces and impulses and of spiritual activity." In Mark 4:19 "lusts" are objects of desire.”
- I Timothy “I Timothy 5:11 (LITV) — But refuse younger widows; for whenever they grow lustful against Christ, they desire to marry,”
- Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Marriage — Divinely instituted -- Ge 2:24. A covenant relationship -- Mal 2:4. Designed for The happiness of man. -- Ge 2:18. Increasing the human population. -- Ge 1:28; 9:1. Raising up godly seed. -- Mal 2:15. Preventing fornication. -- 1Co 7:2. The expectation of the promised seed of the woman an incentive to, in the early age -- Ge 3:15; 4:1. Lawful in all -- 1Co 7:2,28; 1Ti 5:14. Honourable for all -- Heb 13:4. Should be only in the Lord -- 1Co 7:39. Expressed by Joining together. -- Mt 19:6. Making affinity. -- 1Ki 3:1. Taking to wife. -- Ex 2:1. Giving daughte”
- Easton's Bible Dictionary “Easton's Bible Dictionary: Marriage — Was instituted in Paradise when man was in innocence (Gen. 2:18-24). Here we have its original charter, which was confirmed by our Lord, as the basis on which all regulations are to be framed (Matt. 19:4, 5). It is evident that monogamy was the original law of marriage (Matt. 19:5; 1 Cor. 6:16). This law was violated in after times, when corrupt usages began to be introduced (Gen. 4:19; 6:2). We meet with the prevalence of polygamy and concubinage in the patriarchal age (Gen. 16:1-4; 22:21-24; 28:8, 9; 29:23-30, etc.). Polygamy was acknowledged in the Mosa”
- 1 Timothy “But refuse younger widows, for when they have grown wanton against Christ, they desire to marry; -- 1 Timothy 5:11”
- Smith's Bible Dictionary “Smith's Bible Dictionary: Marriage — + Its origin and history .--The institution of marriage dates from the time of man's original creation. (Genesis 2:18-25) From (Genesis 2:24) we may evolve the following principles: (1) The unity of man and wife, as implied in her being formed out of man. (2) The indissolubleness of the marriage bond, except on; the strongest grounds, Comp. (Matthew 19:9) (3) Monogamy, as the original law of marriage (4) The social equality of man and wife. (5) The subordination of the wife to the husband. (1 Corinthians 11:8,9; 1 Timothy 2:13) (6) The respective duties of ”
- Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Love to Man — Is of God -- 1Jo 4:7. Commanded by God -- 1Jo 4:21. Commanded by Christ -- Joh 13:34; 15:12; 1Jo 3:23. After the example of Christ -- Joh 13:34; 15:12; Eph 5:2. Taught by God -- 1Th 4:9. Faith works by -- Ga 5:6. A fruit of the Spirit -- Ga 5:22; Col 1:8. Purity of heart leads to -- 1Pe 1:22. Explained -- 1Co 13:4-7. Is an active principle -- 1Th 1:3; Heb 6:10. Is an abiding principle -- 1Co 13:8,13. Is the second great commandment -- Mt 22:37-39. Is the end of the commandment -- 1Ti 1:5. Supernatural gifts are nothing without -- 1Co 13:1,2. The greates”
- Ezek (Protestant academic) “Tyndale House on Ezek 23:4: 23:4 Marriage is commonly used in the Bible as a symbol for the covenant relationship between God and his people (e.g., Isa 54:1-8; Eph 5:22-33). Adultery symbolizes Israel’s spiritual unfaithfulness (e.g., Hos 1–3). God makes his covenants in spite of, not because of, his people’s character (Rom 5:6-11).”
- Ezekiel (Protestant academic) “Tyndale House on Ezekiel 23:4: 23:4 Marriage is commonly used in the Bible as a symbol for the covenant relationship between God and his people (e.g., Isa 54:1-8; Eph 5:22-33). Adultery symbolizes Israel’s spiritual unfaithfulness (e.g., Hos 1–3). God makes his covenants in spite of, not because of, his people’s character (Rom 5:6-11).”
- Deuteronomy (Nonconformist/Puritan) “Matthew Henry on Deuteronomy 21:10: By this law a soldier is allowed to marry his captive if he pleased. For the hardness of their hearts Moses gave them this permission, lest, if they had not had liberty given them to marry such, they should have taken liberty to defile themselves with them, and by such wickedness the camp would have been troubled. The man is supposed to have a wife already, and to take this wife for a secondary wife, as the Jews called them. This indulgence of men's inordinate desires, in which their hearts walked after their eyes, is by no means agreeable to the law of Chri”
- Hosea (Presbyterian) “Jamieson, Fausset & Brown on Hosea 2:19: "Betroth" is thrice repeated, implying the intense love of God to His people; and perhaps, also, the three Persons of the Triune God, severally engaging to make good the betrothal. The marriage covenant will be as it were renewed from the beginning, on a different footing; not for a time only, as before, through the apostasy of the people, but "forever" through the grace of God writing the law on their hearts by the Spirit of Messiah (Jer 31:31-37). righteousness . . . judgment--in rectitude and truth. loving-kindness, &c.--Hereby God assures Israel”
- Deuteronomy (Lutheran) “Keil & Delitzsch on Deuteronomy 22:13: Laws of Chastity and Marriage. - Higher and still holier than the order of nature stands the moral order of marriage, upon which the well-being not only of domestic life, but also of the civil commonwealth of nations, depends. Marriage must be founded upon fidelity and chastity on the part of those who are married. To foster this, and secure it against outbreaks of malice and evil lust, was the design and object of the laws which follow. The first (Deu 22:13-21) relates to the chastity of a woman on entering into the married state, which might be called i”