Old Testament Verses on Parenting and Family Roles
The Old Testament presents a foundational understanding of parenting and family roles, emphasizing the father's authority, the divine origin of children, and the responsibilities of parents in raising their offspring. The father is consistently depicted as the head of the family, a position that reflects God's own relationship with humanity [1]. This patriarchal structure was foundational to early Israelite society [1].
Children are considered a gift from God [2, 4], and their capacity to glorify God is acknowledged [4]. Parents are tasked with several key duties toward their children. These include loving them [2], bringing them to Christ [2], and training them in God's ways [2, 4]. Instruction in God's word is paramount [2], as is teaching them about God's judgments and miraculous works [2]. Parents are also expected to command their children to obey God [2]. The importance of parental blessing is highlighted, as it was believed to confer significant benefit, while a father's curse could bring injury [1]. Providing for children is also a parental responsibility [2].
Conversely, children are called to obey and honor their parents [4]. They are to attend to parental teaching, fear their parents, and obey them [4]. The relationship between parents and children is intended to reflect devotion to God [8].
Marriage, the institution through which families are formed, is divinely instituted and described as a covenant relationship [5]. Its purposes include human happiness, population increase, raising godly offspring, and preventing fornication [5]. The Old Testament also contains examples of family structures, such as Noah entering the ark with his sons, wife, and sons' wives [3], illustrating the nuclear family unit. The concept of God as a father to Israel underscores the divine model for parental care and covenant relationship [6, 7, 9]. God's fatherhood is presented as more secure than national ancestry [7].
Sources
- Smith's Bible Dictionary “Smith's Bible Dictionary: Father — The position and authority of the father as the head of the family are expressly assumed and sanctioned in Scripture, as a likeness of that of the Almighty over his creatures. It lies of course at the root of that so-called patriarchal government, (Genesis 3:16; 1 Corinthians 11:3) which was introductory to the more definite systems which followed, and which in part, but not wholly, superseded it. The father's blessing was regarded as conferring special benefit, but his malediction special injury, on those on whom it fell, (Genesis 9:25,27; 27:27-40; 48:15,20”
- Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Parents — Receive their children from God -- Ge 33:5; 1Sa 1:27; Ps 127:3. Their duty to their children is To love them. -- Tit 2:4. To bring them to Christ. -- Mt 19:13,14. To train them up for God. -- Pr 22:6; Eph 6:4. To instruct them in God's word. -- De 4:9; 11:19; Isa 38:19. To tell them of God's judgments. -- Joe 1:3. To tell them of the miraculous works of God. -- Ex 10:2; Ps 78:4. To command them to obey God. -- De 32:46; 1Ch 28:9. To bless them. -- Ge 48:15; Heb 11:20. To pity them. -- Ps 103:13. To provide for them. -- Job 42:15; 2Co 12:14; 1Ti 5:8. To rule”
- Genesis “But I will establish my covenant with you. You shall come into the ship, you, your sons, your wife, and your sons’ wives with you. -- Genesis 6:18”
- Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Children — Christ was an example to -- Lu 2:51; Joh 19:26,27. Are a gift from God -- Ge 33:5; Ps 127:3. Are capable of glorifying God -- Ps 8:2; 148:12,13; Mt 21:15,16. Should be Brought to Christ. -- Mr 10:13-16. Brought early to the house of God. -- 1Sa 1:24. Instructed in the ways of God. -- De 31:12,13; Pr 22:6. Judiciously trained. -- Pr 22:15; 29:17; Eph 6:4. Should Obey God. -- De 30:2. Fear God. -- Pr 24:21. Remember God. -- Ec 12:1. Attend to parental teaching. -- Pr 1:8,9. Honour parents. -- Ex 20:12; Heb 12:9. Fear parents. -- Le 19:3. Obey parents. -- Pr ”
- Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Marriage — Divinely instituted -- Ge 2:24. A covenant relationship -- Mal 2:4. Designed for The happiness of man. -- Ge 2:18. Increasing the human population. -- Ge 1:28; 9:1. Raising up godly seed. -- Mal 2:15. Preventing fornication. -- 1Co 7:2. The expectation of the promised seed of the woman an incentive to, in the early age -- Ge 3:15; 4:1. Lawful in all -- 1Co 7:2,28; 1Ti 5:14. Honourable for all -- Heb 13:4. Should be only in the Lord -- 1Co 7:39. Expressed by Joining together. -- Mt 19:6. Making affinity. -- 1Ki 3:1. Taking to wife. -- Ex 2:1. Giving daughte”
- Deuteronomy (Protestant academic) “Tyndale House on Deuteronomy 1:31: 1:31 God’s tender care as a father reflected his covenant relationship with Israel (Exod 4:22; Hos 11:1-4; cp. Matt 6:26-33; John 14:21; Acts 13:18; Rom 8:15-17; 1 Pet 1:2-3; 1 Jn 3:1). Israel was God’s child by descent from Abraham and because God had chosen and adopted Israel from among all the nations (Deut 14:2; Exod 19:4-6). The imagery is similar to that found in secular covenant texts in which a great king regarded a vassal with whom he had made a treaty as his son.”
- Isaiah (Protestant academic) “Tyndale House on Isaiah 63:16: 63:16 our Father: God’s fatherhood and his commitment to his children are much more important and secure than national ancestry (see 9:6; 64:8; Deut 32:6; Ps 68:5; Mal 2:10; Matt 6:9-15; Rom 8:15-17).”
- Ephesians (Protestant academic) “Tyndale House on Ephesians 6:1: 6:1-4 The relationship between parents and children is to be a reflection of their devotion to the Lord. Christian children are to obey their parents, and Christian parents are to discipline their children gently (see Col 3:20-21).”
- Romans (Protestant academic) “Tyndale House on Romans 8:14: 8:14 children of God: In the Old Testament, this phrase referred to Israel, the people God called to be his own (see especially Exod 4:22; Jer 3:19; 31:9; Hos 11:1). Paul uses it to remind believers that they enjoy an intimate relationship with God and that they will inherit many of the promises and blessings given to Israel. Christians are no longer minors or slaves, but mature children with full rights (see Gal 4:1-7).”