Sexual Intimacy in Marriage and Singleness in Christianity
Christian teaching on sexual intimacy within marriage and singleness is rooted in biblical texts, particularly the Apostle Paul's letters. Paul addresses questions from the Corinthian church regarding marriage and celibacy, consistently emphasizing that Christians are claimed by Christ for his service [9, 6].
Paul recommends remaining single, viewing it as an ideal for serving God, but clarifies that marriage is not a sin [9]. He encourages celibacy for God's sake, echoing an ideal also found in Jesus's teachings [9]. However, within marriage, sexual intimacy is presented as a mutual right and responsibility. Due to the temptation of sexual immorality, married Christians are urged to be considerate of their spouses' sexual needs, and neither spouse should withhold intimacy from the other [7]. Marriage involves yielding authority over one's body to one's spouse, though this authority should not be abused [7]. The union of man and woman in marriage is also understood to reflect a deeper spiritual reality, representing the relationship between Christ and the Church [8, 10].
The biblical understanding of sin provides a backdrop for these discussions. All human beings are considered to be born with a sinful nature [1]. Sin is described as a rebellion against God, an act of insolence [4]. The first sin, as depicted in Genesis, involved disobedience and a preference for the creature over the Creator [3]. The New Testament further elaborates that "he who commits sin is of the devil" [2]. Paul teaches that both Gentiles and Jews are universally under the power of sin, unable to find favor with God through their own actions [5]. This universal sinfulness underscores the importance of God's grace and the call to live in accordance with Christ's claims on believers [5, 6].
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- Psalms (Protestant academic) “Tyndale House on Psalms 58:3: 58:3 All human beings are born sinners (see 51:5); however, whereas the wicked indulge their sinful nature, the godly fight against it (Rom 7:19-23; Jas 4:1-10).”
- 1 John (Presbyterian) “Jamieson, Fausset & Brown on 1 John 3:8: He that committeth sin is of the devil--in contrast to "He that doeth righteousness," Jo1 3:7. He is a son of the devil (Jo1 3:10; Joh 8:44). John does not, however, say, "born of the devil." as he does "born of God," for "the devil begets none, nor does he create any; but whoever imitates the devil becomes a child of the devil by imitating him, not by proper birth" [AUGUSTINE, Ten Homilies on the First Epistle of John, Homily 4.10]. From the devil there is not generation, but corruption [BENGEL]. sinneth from the beginning--from the time that any beg”
- Genesis (Presbyterian) “Jamieson, Fausset & Brown on Genesis 3:13: beguiled--cajoled by flattering lies. This sin of the first pair was heinous and aggravated--it was not simply eating an apple, but a love of self, dishonor to God, ingratitude to a benefactor, disobedience to the best of Masters--a preference of the creature to the Creator.”
- Psalms (Protestant academic) “Tyndale House on Psalms 19:13: 19:13 An individual who commits deliberate sins does so with an insolent (86:14) or arrogant (119:21, 69) attitude. • The great sin is rebellion (see 32:1).”
- Romans (Protestant academic) “Tyndale House on Romans 1:18: 1:18–3:20 Paul delays exploring the theme of righteousness through faith (see 3:21) until after he first teaches about universal sinfulness. Gentiles (1:18-32) and Jews (2:1–3:8) are equally under sin’s power and cannot find favor with God by any action of their own (3:9-20). 1:18 God’s anger is not a spontaneous emotional outburst, but the holy God’s necessary response to sin. The Old Testament often depicts God’s anger (Exod 32:10-12; Num 11:1; Jer 21:3-7) and predicts a decisive outpouring of God’s wrath on human sin at the end of history. While Paul usually de”
- 1 Corinthians (Protestant academic) “Tyndale House on 1 Corinthians 3:23: 3:23 Just as they may now claim everything as their own, so Christ has claimed them for himself (see Rom 14:7-9), and in Christ they are ultimately claimed by God (see 1 Cor 6:19-20; 7:23).”
- 1 Corinthians (Protestant academic) “Tyndale House on 1 Corinthians 7:3: 7:3-4 Because of the temptation to sexual immorality, married Christians must always be considerate of the sexual needs of their spouses. Sexual intimacy is a mutual right for both spouses in a marriage and must not be withheld. Marriage includes yielding the authority over one’s body to one’s spouse, though such authority is clearly not to be abused.”
- 1 Corinthians (Presbyterian) “Jamieson, Fausset & Brown on 1 Corinthians 11:11: Yet neither sex is insulated and independent of the other in the Christian life [ALFORD]. The one needs the other in the sexual relation; and in respect to Christ ("in the Lord"), the man and the woman together (for neither can be dispensed with) realize the ideal of redeemed humanity represented by the bride, the Church.”
- 1 Corinthians (Protestant academic) “Tyndale House on 1 Corinthians 7:1: 7:1–16:4 Paul now addresses the questions the Corinthians had asked him by letter, beginning with the question of marriage (cp. 7:25; 8:1; 12:1; 16:1). 7:1-40 Paul consistently states his strong conviction that true Christians, as slaves of Christ, are wholly claimed by Christ the Lord for his own service. Because of this, he recommends that Christians remain single, but concedes that getting married is no sin. 7:1 it is good to abstain from sexual relations: Both Paul and Jesus encouraged the ideal of a celibate life for God’s sake (cp. Matt 19:10-12). Paul”
- Ephesians (Presbyterian) “Jamieson, Fausset & Brown on Ephesians 5:31: For--The propagation of the Church from Christ, as that of Eve from Adam, is the foundation of the spiritual marriage. The natural marriage, wherein "a man leaves father and mother (the oldest manuscripts omit 'his') and is joined unto his wife," is not the principal thing meant here, but the spiritual marriage represented by it, and on which it rests, whereby Christ left the Father's bosom to woo to Himself the Church out of a lost world: Eph 5:32 proves this: His earthly mother as such, also, He holds in secondary account as compared with His spir”