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Signs of Unhealthy Dependence on Others' Examples in Christian Life

An unhealthy dependence on the examples of others in Christian life can manifest when individuals prioritize external validation or comparison over a personal examination of their faith and conduct. The Apostle Paul encourages believers to "Test your own selves, whether you are in the faith. Test your own selves" [3]. This emphasis on self-examination suggests that a primary focus should be on one's own walk with Christ, rather than solely on the actions or opinions of others.

One sign of unhealthy dependence is when a Christian derives their consolation or assurance from comparing themselves with others, especially those perceived as weaker or less instructed [10]. Adam Clarke, in his commentary on Galatians 6:4, argues that a believer should "examine himself and his conduct by the words and example of Christ" [10]. If this self-assessment aligns with Christ's standard, then the individual will "have rejoicing in himself alone," rather than relying on comparisons with others [10]. The example of Christ is presented as the perfect standard for holiness, righteousness, purity, love, humility, meekness, obedience, and self-denial [7]. Christ's example also condemns selfishness, which is contrary to God's law and manifested in pleasing oneself or seeking one's own interests [2].

Another indicator of unhealthy dependence is a failure to develop personal conviction, leading to actions driven by the fear of man rather than faith. The fear of man can prevent individuals from confessing Christ, as seen in instances where people believed in Jesus but did not confess him "for fear of the Jews" [4]. This suggests that reliance on others' approval can hinder a genuine expression of faith. Conversely, confessing Christ is presented as necessary for salvation and an evidence of union with God [4].

Furthermore, an unhealthy focus on others' examples can lead to a lack of self-denial, which is a crucial aspect of Christian discipleship. Self-denial is necessary for following Christ and is a test of devotedness to Him [1]. Christ himself set an example of self-denial [1, 7]. When individuals are overly concerned with the examples of others, they may neglect the personal discipline required to deny ungodliness, control appetites, and mortify sinful lusts [1].

The New Testament also warns against living in ignorance of God, which can be evidenced by a lack of love, not keeping His commands, and living in sin [5]. Such ignorance can lead to error, idolatry, and alienation from God [5]. Idolatry, in this context, extends beyond worshipping images to include serving other gods or even worshipping the true God by an image [6]. This can be interpreted as placing anything, including the examples or expectations of others, in a position that detracts from a direct relationship with God.

The apostle Paul also addresses those who look at outward appearances, reminding them that belonging to Christ is not about external confidence or comparison with others [8]. The call is to "press on to perfection," leaving behind elementary teachings and focusing on a mature faith toward God [9]. This pursuit of spiritual maturity requires an internal assessment and commitment, rather than a constant gaze at the spiritual progress or perceived righteousness of peers. Matthew Henry, commenting on 1 Corinthians 5:7, emphasizes the need for Christian churches and individual members to be pure and holy, purging out "old leaven" and not bearing "corrupt and scandalous members" [11]. This internal purification is a personal responsibility that cannot be outsourced to the examples of others.

Sources

  1. Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Self-Denial — Christ set an example of -- Mt 4:8-10; 8:20; Joh 6:38; Ro 15:3; Php 2:6-8. A test of devotedness to Christ -- Mt 10:37,38; Lu 9:23,24. Necessary In following Christ. -- Lu 14:27-33. In the warfare of saints. -- 2Ti 2:4. To the triumph of saints. -- 1Co 9:25-27. Ministers especially called to exercise -- 2Co 6:4,5. Should be exercised in Denying ungodliness and worldly lusts. -- Ro 6:12; Tit 2:12. Controlling the appetite. -- Pr 23:2. Abstaining from fleshly lusts. -- 1Pe 2:11. No longer living to lusts of men. -- 1Pe 4:2. Mortifying sinful lusts. -- Mr ”
  2. Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Selfishness — Contrary to the law of God -- Le 19:18; Mt 22:39; Jas 2:8. The example of Christ condemns -- Joh 4:34; Ro 15:3; 2Co 8:9. God hates -- Mal 1:10. Exhibited in Being lovers of ourselves. -- 2Ti 3:2. Pleasing ourselves. -- Ro 15:1. Seeking our own. -- 1Co 10:33; Php 2:21. Seeking after gain. -- Isa 56:11. Seeking undue precedence. -- Mt 20:21. Living to ourselves. -- 2Co 5:15. Neglect of the poor. -- 1Jo 3:17. Serving God for reward. -- Mal 1:10. Performing duty for reward. -- Mic 3:11. Inconsistent with Christian love -- 1Co 13:5. Inconsistent with communi”
  3. 2 Corinthians “Test your own selves, whether you are in the faith. Test your own selves. Or don’t you know as to your own selves, that Jesus Christ is in you?—unless indeed you are disqualified. -- 2 Corinthians 13:5”
  4. Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Confessing Christ — Influences of the Holy Spirit necessary to -- 1Co 12:3; 1Jo 4:2. A test of being saints -- 1Jo 2:23; 4:2,3. An evidence of union with God -- 1Jo 4:15. Necessary to salvation -- Ro 10:9,10. Ensures his confessing us -- Mt 10:32. The fear of man prevents -- Joh 7:13; 12:42,43. Persecution should not prevent us from -- Mr 8:35; 2Ti 2:12. Must be connected with faith -- Ro 10:9. Consequences of not -- Mt 10:33. Exemplified Nathanael. -- Joh 1:49. Peter. -- Joh 6:68,69; Ac 2:22-36. Man born blind. -- Joh 9:25,33. Martha. -- Joh 11:27. Peter and John. -”
  5. Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Ignorance of God — Ignorance of Christ is -- Joh 8:19. Evidenced by Want of love. -- 1Jo 4:8. Not keeping his commands. -- 1Jo 2:4. Living in sin. -- Tit 1:16; 1Jo 3:6. Leads to Error. -- Mt 22:29. Idolatry. -- Isa 44:19; Ac 17:29,30. Alienation from God. -- Eph 4:18. Sinful lusts. -- 1Th 4:5; 1Pe 1:14. Persecuting saints. -- Joh 15:21; 16:3. Is no excuse for sin -- Le 4:2; Lu 12:48. The wicked, in a state of -- Jer 9:3; Joh 15:21; 17:25; Ac 17:30. The wicked choose -- Job 21:14; Ro 1:28. Punishment of -- Ps 79:6; 2Th 1:8. Ministers should Compassionate those in. -- ”
  6. Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Idolatry — Forbidden -- Ex 20:2,3; De 5:7. Consists in Bowing down to images. -- Ex 20:5; De 5:9. Worshipping images. -- Isa 44:17; Da 3:5,10,15. Sacrificing to images. -- Ps 106:38; Ac 7:41. Worshipping other gods. -- De 30:17; Ps 81:9. Swearing by other gods. -- Ex 23:13; Jos 23:7. Walking after other gods. -- De 8:19. Speaking in the name of other gods. -- De 18:20. Looking to other gods. -- Ho 3:1. Serving other gods. -- De 7:4; Jer 5:19. Fearing other gods. -- 2Ki 17:35. Sacrificing to other gods. -- Ex 22:20. Worshipping the true God by an image, & c. -- Ex 32:”
  7. Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Example of Christ, The — Is perfect -- Heb 7:26. Conformity to, required in Holiness. -- 1Pe 1:15,16; Ro 1:6. Righteousness. -- 1Jo 2:6. Purity. -- 1Jo 3:3. Love. -- Joh 13:34; Eph 5:2; 1Jo 3:16. Humility. -- Lu 22:27; Php 2:5,7. Meekness. -- Mt 11:29. Obedience. -- Joh 15:10. Self-denial. -- Mt 16:24; Ro 15:3. Ministering to others. -- Mt 20:28; Joh 13:14,15. Benevolence. -- Ac 20:35; 2Co 8:7,9. Forgiving injuries. -- Col 3:13. Overcoming the world. -- Joh 16:33; 1Jo 5:4. Being not of the world. -- Joh 17:16. Being guileless. -- 1Pe 2:21-22. Suffering wrongfully. --”
  8. II Corinthians “II Corinthians 10:7 (BSB) — You are looking at outward appearances. If anyone is confident that he belongs to Christ, he should remind himself that we belong to Christ just as much as he does.”
  9. Hebrews “Therefore leaving the teaching of the first principles of Christ, let us press on to perfection—not laying again a foundation of repentance from dead works, of faith toward God, -- Hebrews 6:1”
  10. Galatians (Methodist/Wesleyan) “Adam Clarke on Galatians 6:4: Prove his own work - Let him examine himself and his conduct by the words and example of Christ; and if he find that they bear this touchstone, then he shall have rejoicing in himself alone, feeling that he resembles his Lord and Master, and not in another - not derive his consolation from comparing himself with another who may be weaker, or less instructed than himself. The only rule for a Christian is the word of Christ; the only pattern for his imitation is the example of Christ. He should not compare himself with others; they are not his standard. Christ hath ”
  11. 1 Corinthians (Nonconformist/Puritan) “Matthew Henry on 1 Corinthians 5:7: Here the apostle exhorts them to purity, by purging out the old leaven. In this observe, I. The advice itself, addressed either, 1. To the church in general; and so purging out the old leaven, that they might be a new lump, refers to the putting away from themselves that wicked person, Co1 5:13. Note, Christian churches should be pure and holy, and not bear such corrupt and scandalous members. They are to be unleavened, and should endure no such heterogeneous mixture to sour and corrupt them. Or, 2. To each particular member of the church. And so it implies ”
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