Role of Providence in Christian Marriage and Relationships
Divine providence refers to God's ongoing preservation and governance of all things through secondary causes [1]. This comprehensive care extends to the natural world, animal creation, and the affairs of humanity, including individuals [1, 4]. In the context of Christian marriage and relationships, providence is understood to play a significant role, guiding and sustaining these foundational human institutions.
Marriage itself is divinely instituted, originating in Paradise when humanity was in innocence (Genesis 2:18-24) [3]. Its original charter, confirmed by Jesus (Matthew 19:4-5), establishes monogamy as the foundational law [3]. The purposes of marriage include the happiness of humanity, increasing the population, raising godly offspring, and preventing sexual immorality [2]. The Bible describes marriage as a covenant relationship (Malachi 2:4) [2].
God's providence is seen in the provision of a spouse. A discreet and virtuous wife, for example, is considered a "choice gift of God's providence" [8]. This perspective encourages individuals not to attribute a good marriage solely to their own wisdom or management, but to the goodness of God [8]. This aligns with the broader understanding that God's providence orders the ways of men (Proverbs 16:9; 19:21) [4].
Within marriage, the roles and responsibilities of husbands and wives are also understood to be divinely ordered. Christian wives are called to submit to their husbands and show them respect, while Christian husbands are commanded to love their wives sacrificially, just as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:22-33) [7, 9, 11]. This reciprocal relationship, where neither sex is independent of the other, is seen as realizing the ideal of redeemed humanity in Christ [5]. The union between husband and wife is intended to reflect the relationship between Christ and the church [9].
The New Testament also addresses practical aspects of marriage and relationships under divine providence. Paul encourages marriage as a general rule to avoid sexual immorality, particularly for those who do not possess the gift of continence (1 Corinthians 7:2, 5) [6, 10]. He expresses a wish that all people might have the gift of continence, but acknowledges that each person has their own gift from God [10]. This highlights that individual circumstances and gifts are also part of God's providential ordering.
The concept of providence in relationships extends beyond the initial pairing to the ongoing sustenance and guidance within the marriage. God's care is exercised in preserving, providing for, and protecting His creatures, including saints [4]. This implies that God's providential hand is at work in the daily lives and challenges faced by married couples, leading them and bringing His purposes to pass [4].
Sources
- Easton's Bible Dictionary “Easton's Bible Dictionary: Providence — Literally means foresight, but is generally used to denote God's preserving and governing all things by means of second causes (Ps. 18:35; 63:8; Acts 17:28; Col. 1:17; Heb. 1:3). God's providence extends to the natural world (Ps. 104:14; 135:5-7; Acts 14:17), the brute creation (Ps. 104:21-29; Matt. 6:26; 10:29), and the affairs of men (1 Chr. 16:31; Ps. 47:7; Prov. 21:1; Job 12:23; Dan. 2:21; 4:25), and of individuals (1 Sam. 2:6; Ps. 18:30; Luke 1:53; James 4:13-15). It extends also to the free actions of men (Ex. 12:36; 1 Sam. 24:9-15; Ps. 33:14, 15; ”
- Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Marriage — Divinely instituted -- Ge 2:24. A covenant relationship -- Mal 2:4. Designed for The happiness of man. -- Ge 2:18. Increasing the human population. -- Ge 1:28; 9:1. Raising up godly seed. -- Mal 2:15. Preventing fornication. -- 1Co 7:2. The expectation of the promised seed of the woman an incentive to, in the early age -- Ge 3:15; 4:1. Lawful in all -- 1Co 7:2,28; 1Ti 5:14. Honourable for all -- Heb 13:4. Should be only in the Lord -- 1Co 7:39. Expressed by Joining together. -- Mt 19:6. Making affinity. -- 1Ki 3:1. Taking to wife. -- Ex 2:1. Giving daughte”
- Easton's Bible Dictionary “Easton's Bible Dictionary: Marriage — Was instituted in Paradise when man was in innocence (Gen. 2:18-24). Here we have its original charter, which was confirmed by our Lord, as the basis on which all regulations are to be framed (Matt. 19:4, 5). It is evident that monogamy was the original law of marriage (Matt. 19:5; 1 Cor. 6:16). This law was violated in after times, when corrupt usages began to be introduced (Gen. 4:19; 6:2). We meet with the prevalence of polygamy and concubinage in the patriarchal age (Gen. 16:1-4; 22:21-24; 28:8, 9; 29:23-30, etc.). Polygamy was acknowledged in the Mosa”
- Torrey's Topical Textbook “Torrey's Topical Textbook: Providence of God, The — Is his care over his works -- Ps 145:9. Is exercised in Preserving his creatures. -- Ne 9:6; Ps 36:6; Mt 10:29. Providing for his creatures. -- Ps 104:27,28; 136:25; 147:9; Mt 6:26. The special preservation of saints. -- Ps 37:28; 91:11; Mt 10:30. Prospering saints. -- Ge 24:48,56. Protecting saints. -- Ps 91:4; 140:7. Delivering saints. -- Ps 91:3; Isa 31:5. Leading saints. -- De 8:2,15; Isa 31:5. Leading saints. -- De 8:2,15; Isa 63:12. Bringing His words to pass. -- Nu 26:65; Jos 21:45; Lu 21:32,33. Ordering the ways of men. -- Pr 16:9; 19”
- 1 Corinthians (Presbyterian) “Jamieson, Fausset & Brown on 1 Corinthians 11:11: Yet neither sex is insulated and independent of the other in the Christian life [ALFORD]. The one needs the other in the sexual relation; and in respect to Christ ("in the Lord"), the man and the woman together (for neither can be dispensed with) realize the ideal of redeemed humanity represented by the bride, the Church.”
- 1 Corinthians (Presbyterian) “Jamieson, Fausset & Brown on 1 Corinthians 7:2: Here the general rule is given to avoid fornication--More literally, "on account of fornications," to which as being very prevalent at Corinth, and not even counted sins among the heathen, unmarried persons might be tempted. The plural, "fornications," marks irregular lusts, as contrasted with the unity of the marriage relation [BENGEL]. let every man have--a positive command to all who have not the gift of continency, in fact to the great majority of the world (Co1 7:5). The dignity of marriage is set forth by Paul (Eph 5:25-32), in the fact”
- Ephesians (Protestant academic) “Tyndale House on Ephesians 5:33: 5:33 Paul summarizes his teaching on the relationship between husbands and wives (5:22-33). Christian marriages should be marked by love and respect.”
- Proverbs (Nonconformist/Puritan) “Matthew Henry on Proverbs 19:14: Note, 1. A discreet and virtuous wife is a choice gift of God's providence to a man - a wife that is prudent, in opposition to one that is contentious, Pro 19:13. For, though a wife that is continually finding fault may think it is her wit and wisdom to be so, it is really her folly; a prudent wife is meek and quiet, and makes the best of every thing. If a man has such a wife, let him not ascribe it to the wisdom of his own choice or his own management (for the wisest have been deceived both in and by a woman), but let him ascribe it to the goodness of God, who”
- Ephesians (Protestant academic) “Tyndale House on Ephesians 5:22: 5:22-33 Christian wives are to submit to their husbands, showing them respect. Equally important, Christian husbands are to love their wives (see Col 3:18-19). Christian marriages become a reflection of the union and relationship between the Lord and the church. 5:22 Submission is part of the life to which the wives’ Christian commitment calls them (see 1 Cor 11:3-10; 14:34-35; Col 3:18; 1 Tim 2:11-12; Titus 2:5; 1 Pet 3:1-6).”
- 1 Corinthians (Baptist/Reformed) “John Gill on 1 Corinthians 7:7: For I would that all men were even as I myself,.... The apostle speaks not of his state and condition, as married or unmarried, for it is not certain which he was; some think he had a wife, others not: it looks, however, as if he had not at this time, as appears from Co1 7:8 but be it which it will, it can hardly be thought he should wish all men to be in either state, either all married, or all unmarried; but he speaks of the gift of continency, which he had, as the following words show; and this he desires for all men, that they might not be in any danger from”
- Ephesians (Protestant academic) “Tyndale House on Ephesians 5:25: 5:25-33 Christian husbands are to love their wives just as Christ loved the church—that is, sacrificially, for Christ gave up his life for her (5:2; cp. Col 3:19; 1 Pet 3:7).”